Posts made in July 28th, 2011
I have a muffin top.
Now before you rush to say, “just wear looser pants” or “that’ll go away as you lose more weight” let me explain to you that I don’t just have a muffin top by proxy of bum-hugging denim (although I am a fan of a good pair of skinny jeans), no my friends, my standard body type is muffin top. I have a perma-muffin top if you will. It’s just what I am. Even wearing my old size 24s jeans—that were my pant of choice 50 pounds ago–the muffin top still exists. I imagine even if I was someday a size four, I’d be a size four with a round little belly (pear-shaped sisters, unite!) I’ve come to the realization over the past few years that short of plastic surgery, there is nothing I can do to rid myself of the ole love handles. They will always exist. And when I sit down? Any hope of being muffin-top-free all goes out the window.
For the vast majority of my adult life, my daily dressing routine has centered around disguising my perma-muffin top. Layering tank tops. High-waisted pants. Even my workout clothes were purchased strategically to obscure the sides of my tummy. Say I spend 10 minutes a day thinking about how to look “smooth”. I’ve been a legal adult for 10 years. That’s 36,500 minutes I’ve spent worrying about my stupid muffin top (even before the term existed).
One day this week, while I was getting ready for work, standing in front of our full length mirror, thinking that I should really put a tank top on under my shirt to help suck in the love handles, suddenly it clicked.
I think I actually like my muffin top.
Say what? A crazy thought. What woman likes something as universally hated as their muffin top? I must be crazy. But suddenly, as I was standing there, knowing in my heart-of-hearts that I am in a very healthy place both emotionally and physically, it occurred to me that my muffin top doesn’t represent all the negative things that women’s magazines suggest it does. I haven’t “let myself go”. I’m not wearing inappropriate clothing. I don’t need to spot train my obliques (which, by the way, are seriously on fire from my most recent core workout). No, my muffin top is just me. It isn’t a symbol of who I am or what I believe in.
If anything, flaunting a muffin top is a sign of strength and emotional health. Is the person that hides their flaws under tent-like clothing more emotionally secure than the person that lets their less-than-model perfect body spill out of a pair of tight jeans? I’ll tell you one thing, I know I have no desire to go back to my size 24s, just because someone doesn’t want to see my flaws. Does that make me emotionally stunted? Or unaware of my presence? No. It just means that I’ve accepted my body for what it is.
Now that I’ve pulled myself out of the society view of what a muffin top is and what a muffin top represents, I’m starting to see the beauty in them. Yep, you read that right—the beauty of a muffin top. Soft, smooth, womanly, organic, curvy. Those are rarely bad things. In fact, there is something a little bit sexy about a muffin top. Just a small glimpse (even if covered by cloth) of what must be a soft, round and feminine belly. Generally, as a society, we see any touch of body fat as unhealthy, lazy and disgusting, but a woman’s body is meant to carry much more body fat than a man (10-15% more). Having softness is a sign of health, fertility and femininity. There is something inherently attractive about a woman having a little junk in her trunk (and her sides).
Of course, everything in moderation. I’m not saying cancel your gym membership and start eating fast food daily to “grow” your muffin top (what a thought). But what I am saying is maybe it is time that as a society, we start to think of the muffin top as a symbol of something different. Maybe even beautiful. And I think I’m starting with feeling that way about my own.
Of note, finding muffin top demonstration pictures for this was mad hard. I guess I have a habit of deleting muffin-toppy photos? Well that stops now.
Do you have a muffin top? How do you feel about it?
There has been a fun little blog meme going around for the past few weeks where bloggers ask their blog friends to compile a list of their posts that fall into seven categories. And well, since I’m never one to miss a ride on a bandwagon (remember the accent videos from a few months back?), when one of my favoritests bloggers, Gretchen from Honey, I Shrunk the Gretchen! tagged me, you know I jumped all over this. So, without any more rambling from your’s truly, my seven links:
Most Beautiful Post
Interestingly enough, Gretchen also picked a post about hiking in the Flatirons for her Most Beautiful (even though we there are totally different times of year, for different reasons and both live no where near Boulder). I love this post because, obviously, the scenery was spectacular, but more importantly, I think the realization I had while trekking through the snow was one of the more poignant moments of my life. And the post that explained that is really, very integral to understanding who I am and what motivates me.
Most Popular Post
Hands down. Not even a close second on this one. Not even my homepage can compare. I posted this recipe for the dessert-desperate only three weeks ago and already nearly 300,000 people have stopped by my little corner of the internet to check it out. I guess people are in serious need of quick desserts. The post went viral on StumbleUpon, Pinterest and Tumblr. For about a week, the traffic was so high on the post that the blog was moving at a crawl! Good problem to have.
Most controversial post
I don’t think I really have much controversy, and mostly I welcome lively discussion! So this post was the only thing I could think of. At first, this post seems tame as usual, but in the comments there was one bit of backlash that I never expected. I am proud of how I handled it, but it was really the first time since I started this blog that I thought, “Wow. People actually think they know everything about me. And think they get a say in my life.” It never even occurred to me that
strangers blog friends would care about how I run my life (although, in hindsight, I guess that is kinda part of blogging and reading). It was controversial for me because it took a lot of poise to respond how I did when everything inside of me was screaming “DELETE! AND THEN GO CRY!” Thick skin, I have not.
Most helpful post
I seriously cannot pick just one on this, I love writing practical guides that I think are really helpful (and I even refer to them sometimes). Soooo, here’s a list of some of my favorites:
- Tips for your Warrior Dash, Mudathalon or Mud Run
- What to Include in Your Emergency Kit/Jump Bag
- 6 Tips to Help You Feel Good in a Swimsuit
- Tips for Healthy Business Travel
- 5 Tips for Traveling on a Budget
- Grocery Shopping and Couponing 101
- Blogging, Behind the Scenes: Post-Planning
- Overnight Oats 101
- Yogurtmaking 101
A post whose success surprised you
Any of the Good Reads posts
My first Good Reads post was really the first time I kinda stepped outside of the recipe/fitness content arena and I figured it would fizzle out without much pomp and circumstance. But everyone was so into talking about books! It still surprises me every month that people care to talk about reading on a food and fitness focused blog. Good Reads really helped me to realize that health and wellness extends way beyond the kitchen and the gym. The success of Good Reads gave me the confidence to write about other topics that I thought were important to my emotional health
A post you didn’t feel got the attention it deserved
This post was my first time doing a DIY/craft tutorial on BTHR and it kinda bombed. Just like Good Reads, I didn’t know what to expect with the branch out, but it was still a bummer when it fizzled. I love crafting and DIY (it is a huge part of my free time), so I figured incorporating into the blog content was a no-brainer. But, alas, I haven’t written any crafting posts since. Maybe it was the wrong project? Or maybe this just isn’t the right audience for craft-posts (I’ve often thought about starting a separate, Young House Love style blog for DIY projects). Who knows? Maybe I’ll do more crafting posts in the future, but for now, they take a huge time investment and if no one likes them, then it isn’t worth it. I want to write content you want to read.
The post you are most proud of
I started this blog to be a healthy living blogger, just like everyone else. But a few months in I realized I didn’t want to be just like everyone else. I didn’t want to post every morsel of food that went into my mouth. I didn’t want to photograph the same bowl of oatmeal every morning. I didn’t want to complain about how my 8 minute mile was slow. I wanted to be different. And more importantly me. So that post was the beginning of a still ongoing evolution of what this blog is about. And I’m proud of that.
That was FUN! I’ve only been doing this blog thing for 11 months, but it is definitely fun to look back and see how the blog and I have evolved, very cool.
And now, it is time to spread the fun, I’m supposed to tag five people. So, tag, you’re it:
- Dani @ Cloud 8 1/2
- Krissie @ Questions for Dessert
- Gwen @ GwenniePie
- Leah @ Leftovers for Lunch
- Alexia @ Dimple Snatcher