29 things i’ve learned in 29 years.

Well, I’ve made it into the last year of my twenties, my friends. I turn the big two-nine today! Happy birthday, to me (and all the other June 20th babies out there)! There are apparently lots of plans in the works for birthday fun today (moving chores have been put on hiatus for the day) but Babyface is keeping me in the dark. I promise to come back tomorrow and share all the fun!

For now, I thought I’d get a bit retrospective on you. A few years ago, I wrote a post called “50 things I’ve learned in 50 pounds“. That post helped me deal with a lot of the emotional “goo” that comes along with getting healthy and losing weight, and I think it resonated with a lot of people. A few weeks ago, I had the idea to do the same thing, but in relation to getting older.

It’s amazing how life is just one big giant learning curve. The things that I thought were the absolute truth five years ago, no longer seem so absolute. And I’m sure the things I think are set in stone now, will be questioned in the future. But sometimes, it’s fun to take snapshot. And today, on my 29th birthday, I’m going to take a snapshot. Consider this my digital time capsule. And this time capsule holds 29 statements that I believe true this very second. A catalog of sorts, holding the types of things my 29 years have taught me. Here are 29 things I’ve learned in my 29 years…

1. Negativity is toxic. Don’t be a carrier for the disease.

2. You can’t control how someone else feels, no matter how much you try.

3. Do whatever you can to make your spouse’s life easier. If you both do that, your life as a couple will be easier.

4. Working really hard can be really, really fun when it’s doing something you love.

5. Just because you feel down, blue, sad or depressed, it doesn’t mean your life isn’t great. It’s okay to be down, blue, sad and depressed. Even when you’re happy.

6. Not everything you are good at needs to become a money-making venture. Keep some of your hobbies as hobbies. And enjoy them free of the poison of money.

7. Speaking of money, get your finances in order as early as possible in life. There is nothing more frustrating than being held back from your dreams because of finances.

8. You can be a professional, mature, successful woman and still love glitter, the color pink and bubblegum pop music.

9. Drink lots of water. Lots. Of. Water.

10. If you don’t have kids, find some to play with. It’s good for the soul. Few things are more humbling than when a two-year-old asks you to climb around on all fours with them. Run, jump, play tag, make up imaginary games, make them laugh. Be a kid again.

11. It’s okay to be a little eccentric. People like eccentric.

12. Save apologizing for when you are truly sorry. And never apologize for standing up for yourself.

13. Politeness is a lost art. If you become a master at it, doors will open for you (both literally and metaphorically).

14. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Everyone you meet in a day is fighting their own battle. Even the person that cut you off in traffic.

15. Go into all the cheesy, kitschy souvenir shops when you’re on vacation. The hilarity of the merchandise alone is with worth the time commitment.

16. Feed your body well. It changes everything.

17. It’s okay to change your mind. In fact, when it comes to a lot of topics, if your views aren’t constantly evolving, you probably aren’t paying attention.

18. All the foods you hated as a kid? Try them again. You might like (or even love) some of them.

19. None of your pleasures should be guilty. Getting joy out of life is beautiful, even when it comes from watching a Jersey Shore marathon. Don’t be ashamed of being happy.

20. Modesty is underrated. You don’t have to share everything with everyone. Save some of the good stuff for you and those closest to you, only.

21. Paint colors are really easy to change. Don’t be afraid to go bold.

22. Don’t judge someone else’s relationship based on your own. Love takes a million different shapes and sizes. And none of them are wrong.

23. Mean people suck. And there is rarely anything you can do about it.

24. It’s natural to become more cautious and reserved as you get older. Don’t worry about it. So you don’t like rollercoasters the way you did when you were 17, that doesn’t make you any less exciting.

25. When planning a vacation budget, estimate all your costs and then take that number and add 25%. You don’t want to be worrying about money while traveling.

26. Take pictures every single day. You never know when it’s going to be a special one.

27. Buy a really well-fitting denim jacket. Just do it. If it isn’t in fashion this year, it will be the next. And on that wear-and-tear schedule, it’ll last for decades.

28. Don’t buy the cheap oven mitts. Just, trust me.

29. Most of the time, it all works out for the best. Or at the very least, it works out the way it’s supposed to.

What have you learned in your lifetime?

P.S. I’ll be back in a few hours with what is the last recipe for BTHR made in my current kitchen!

19 Comments

  1. says

    Huge happiest of birthdays!

    This is beautiful, and amazing, and wonderful. Filled with my own lived truth as I head into my 31st year. (Birthday was a week and a half ago… yay June babies!)

    While so many of these resonated, I think that #12: Save apologizing for when you are truly sorry. And never apologize for standing up for yourself, made my internal beeper go off and say, “YES!” Still learning it, though…

  2. says

    Happy Birthday! I’m 28 and learning these same lessons – #3, 5, 7, 10 and 29. Yesterday I learned that sometimes the people you love don’t fully understand who you are. But that’s OK because they are still there for you.

  3. says

    Happy birthday my love! What a great list — definitely a bunch of things I need to work on before my own 2-9, like this one:

    12. Save apologizing for when you are truly sorry. And never apologize for standing up for yourself.

    I hope you have the best birthday yet!

  4. Shelley says

    Happy Birthday to you! This next year is going to totally rock your socks!

    My item of wisdom to share: The best beauty product you could ever own is a good moisturizing sunblock. Put it on your face, neck, chest, and hands. Everyday.

  5. Jenny says

    LOVE this post! I turned 30 a few months ago and had a minor breakdown about not being where I thought I would be by this time. So I wrote down all the things that I’ve learned/have happened/I have to keep me from freaking out. It’s amazing what a little tweak in perspective can do. Happy, happy birthday! I hope you have a fantastic day :)Keep growing, keep learning, keep being eccentric! Cheers to you, birthday girl…

  6. Lisa Broadley says

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you’re having fun! I loved this list….especially # 8!! I’ve learned that your age is a number and doesn’t reflect how you feel or look!

  7. Sara says

    Love this post! Very thoughtful and full of so many good lessons we should all try to live by. Happy birthday! Enjoy it!

  8. says

    I recently found your blog through Pinterest, and I have to tell you I really enjoy it. I see a lot of myself in you – even though I’m a few years older. :) I grew up in the “country” and even though I moved to the “city” and love it, I still try to keep my “country” sensibilities and traditions. I also have struggled with weight and body issues all my life. I’m learning to eat healthfully and figuring out *why* I eat the way I do, and with how much I want to talk about these issues on my own blog. Your list is inspiring, as are you. Thank you for this. I’ll be back.

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